The Self Regulation Learning Pathway
Introduction – The Five Steps Before You React
See what happens in under a second before you respond.
Learn how perception, not personality, shapes emotion, belief, and action.
Lesson 1 – Four Skills That Change Your Day: Building Self Regulation
Learn the four skills that steady your system when life pushes back – awareness, self-control, self-soothing, and flexibility.
Lesson 2 – Seeing the Five Step Model in Action
Watch how awareness changes everything.
Through Iman, Jaya, Joe, and Lisa, the Five Step Model of Perception © moves from theory into everyday moments.
Lesson 3 – What Your Feelings Are Telling You
Emotions are messages, not problems.
Discover how understanding what you feel brings calm, connection, and insight.
Lesson 4 – Why Self-Talk Matters
The words in your head shape your nervous system.
Learn how to recognise distorted thinking and change the signal from critical to calm.
Lesson 5 – Staying with what hurts: Building Emotional Strength
Pain loses its power when you can stay present with it.
This lesson teaches self-holding and gentleness through emotional shock and discomfort.
Lesson 6 – How Your Nervous System Speaks
Your body is always scanning for safety.
Learn how fight, flight, freeze, and fawn responses protect you -and how to guide them back to balance.
Lesson 7 – Exploring Your Attachment Style
Connection shapes how you regulate and relate.
Explore how early patterns influence adult closeness, independence, and repair.
Lesson 8 – When Reactions Feel Bigger Than the Moment
Sometimes reactions feel larger than the moment because the body recognises an old emotional memory.
Learn how to use The Memory-Age Bridge © to return safely from past sensations to present-day awareness.
Lesson 9 – What Drives Us – The Six Primary Needs
Every decision meets a need.
Discover how certainty, variety, significance, love & connection, growth, and contribution influence your choices and energy.
Lesson 10 – The Hidden Rules We Live By
Every belief creates a rule that guides how you live.
Uncover your “shoulds,” trace them to their origins, and rewrite them for freedom and authenticity.
Bringing It All Together – Your Questions Answered
Integrate what you’ve learned about perception, emotion, and belief.
Reflect on the most common insights and discoveries within The Self Regulation Project’s Five Step Model of Perception ©.
