
Welcome To
The Self Regulation
Project
Our Five Step Model of Perception © is a map that guides you out of emotional repetition—and into real change.
As a Member what do I get?

A Learning Pathway
You don’t keep repeating the same patterns because you’re weak—your subconscious is just doing its job. But now, it’s time to change the script. If you’ve ever thought: “Why does this keep happening to me?” You’re not alone—and you’re not stuck. The Self Regulation Project’s Five Step Model of Perception © reveals how your nervous system, past experiences, and hidden beliefs shape everything—your reactions, your relationships, your reality. This model is more than insight. It’s a map to freedom. From survival mode to conscious choice. ✨ Ready to find out what your subconscious has been trying to show you? Click to begin.

Immediate Stress Relief
Feeling anxious, overwhelmed, or Unsettled? Calm your nervous system—right now. Discover The Self Regulation Tools: practical, easy-to-use techniques that help you shift out of stress and into calm—right when you need it most. Calm your nervous system, 💭 Soothe racing thoughts, Reconnect with your body, Shift from survival to safety. Start supporting your nervous system today—because real change begins with how you respond to now.

Resource Library
The Resource Library offers curated insights into key areas like trauma, attachment, emotional learning, and personal development. 🎧 From books and podcasts to videos and articles, each resource is selected to deepen your understanding and expand your self-awareness.

Storytelling brings learning to life
Storytelling brings learning to life. By following characters like Lisa, readers see self-regulation and The Self Regulation Project’s Five Step Model of Perception © in action—making complex ideas relatable, engaging, and easy to apply in real life.

Continuous Added Value
The Self Regulation Project is an evolving resource, updated each year with new tools to support nervous system regulation. ✨ We honour that every journey is different—so we’re committed to sharing fresh ideas and practical techniques you can explore, adapt, and make your own.

25+ years experience
Created by Fiona Gilholme-Hird, founder of Quantum Psychology, The Self Regulation Project brings together over 25 years of experience in trauma, anxiety, and emotional regulation. Grounded in the Five Step Model of Perception ©, this project offers tools, insights, and soothing practices to help you understand your internal system and feel more settled in daily life.
“The Self Regulation Project is an amazing tool with so much important information, guidance, exercises and even recommendations for external resources for podcasts, videos and books. Learning how to understand why you think and feel the way you do and to be able to self regulate during challenging moments will change your life. This is the best gift you could give yourself”
– Jodie
TRANSFORM THE WAY YOU RESPOND
Learn how to move from automatic survival patterns to conscious, grounded action.
Explore the internal loop of perception, belief, and action using
The Self Regulation Project’s Five Step Model of Perception ©
and begin to gently interrupt the cycle where it starts.
From breath and movement to belief exploration and self-talk shifts—
use tools that meet your nervous system where it’s at.
Learn how regulating your emotions also opens the door to
deeper insight, emotional safety, and healing hidden vulnerability.
Build skills to recognise the cues—before panic, freeze, or overreaction take over.
Self-assess using practical language and body-based awareness.
Learn to spot what activates you—past programming, beliefs, needs—
and begin to shift your response with understanding, not shame.
Transform the urge to run, freeze, or people-please
into the courage to stay, explore, and respond differently..